Changing job requires courage!

Intelligent!

I'm a career coach and every day I meet very good people who just need "courage". This applies to many women.

I found an article on the phrases that smart people say every day and it made me think about them.

I do not want to meander into theories on language and its importance in relation to how we feel and how we act, but anyone can recognise in their personal experience the difference that mantras like "I'll never make it" and "I can do it" can make. These are not just common catchphrases.

Let's learn to say "I can do it".

Here are 11 similar phrases to use according to your needs.

1. "No one else is willing to do that, so that's what I will do"

Is anyone else doing it? Then I'll do it.

Instead of taking a step back and asking why no one else is volunteering, seize the opportunity yourself.

Teach yourself to do it now, especially if you think you don’t know how to do it yet.

Join a network and put yourself forward to work in any available partnership.

At work be sure to raise your hand, if not always then at least once or twice.

2. "I will answer the question that wasn't asked"

Participate and have your say.

I would suggest not doing this all the time. Don’t aim to take centre stage as men sometimes - often – tend to do. But make your contribution, even at the risk of facing an inconvenient topic. After all, there are many ways of communicating and perhaps how you say something is more important than what you say, especially when discussing a common interest.

3. "Hey, that wasn't so bad after all"

Jump right in, sometimes it can prove to be a positive surprise. Situations and people may not be so bad after all.

Sometimes I have no energy at all. I'm tired, I would like to lie down on the couch and unwind. Instead, I force myself to read a few more emails, prepare for a convention, make a phone call, go to a meeting which normally, perhaps due to laziness, I would not attend!

But then I'm happy to have met some people, to have felt distracted, to have learned and to have used my time productively.

4. "I can't do everything today, but I will take one small step"

This is truly the secret! It’s useless to say you can or can't do it if you don’t actually take any action. What you do might be as small, flexible and amendable as you want, but the key point is that you are springing into action.

5. "I should just be quiet"

My professor of Mathematical Analysis always said that engineers must speak only if they have something to say. If everyone acted this way, there would be much less noise around!

6. "I won't care what other people may think"

With maturity and experience, you realize that you simply cannot please everyone and therefore you should agree to follow one path - your own path.

7. "I'll show you"

It sounds like a desire for payback or revenge ... Simply put a little competition and adrenaline is part of life. Some call it "salt".

8. "It's not perfect, and I'm fine with that"

How many perfectionists have you met? People who beat themselves up because things are not perfect... Leaving aside the fact that perfection is not of this world and quality is often "perceived" and subjective, with maturity and experience one learns that things go on even if they are "only" 80% perfect and therefore technically imperfect.

9. "I should have done better"

And when things have been done badly, you can always concede that they could have been approached better, and move on, without too many regrets.

10. "I will recognize a person who doesn't get enough recognition"

Some kind advice for those who want it.

Don't just thank people half-heartedly with perceived superiority, offer a smile to the many people you meet who undertake so-called humble jobs that help make the world go round.

11. "If nothing else, I can always do more"

Determination is sometimes the only quality needed to make a difference.